Personality Grooming

Slowing Down To guard against hurrying through the day, start the day early. Devote half an hour every morning for meditation, or for inspirational reading and reflection. Do not let anything intrude on this most precious period of your day. Take time for a good breakfast. Allow yourself time to get to every engagement a little early. Simplify your life so that you do not try to fill your time with more than you can do. Start by listing your activities. Then prune the list, striking out anything that is not truly necessary and anything that is not beneficial. Don’t try to do everything you can, or even everything you want to. Keep sight of the most important things each day, and use the mantram to remind yourself to keep coming back to them. Allow time for all your meals. Sit down and enjoy your food with others. Repeat your mantram before you eat and eat slowly. Don’t let yourself get pressured into hurrying. Whenever you find yourself beginning to speed up during ...

Each Gender tends to  Express itself quite D ifferently . Most philosophical teachings agree that the soul is neither male nor female . As souls, we incarnate into a gender in order to learn through that experience. Through our experimentation with the various qualities of each sex we are seeking to experience our true whole self. Until we do experience our inner fullness , we seek to find completion externally through a love partner. This effort towards attunement with the other sex brings stability, joy, security and affirmation but is not without problems and challenges. One main challenge is being able to understand, respond to and find solutions for the need differences when they occur . Some of these main conflicts are differing needs for: a . Cleanliness - order b. Affection, sex ...

The saying " No man is an island " is an undeniable truth. We need the support and cooperation of other people to help us in reaching our goals. Successful people know that one of the most important abilities to possess is the ability to persuade and influence others. Here are some hot tips to do this effectively. 1) Enter Their World Try to put yourself in the other’s shoes and understand the situation from their point of view. Set aside your personal interests and concentrate on them. Ask yourself if you are them, what would you do? What would be your opinion? Then take the appropriate action that would be beneficial to them. 2) Mirror Their Body Language People feel comfortable with those who are like them. Copy the person you are trying to cre...

" You don't have to buy from anyone. You don't have to work at any particular job. You don't have to participate in any given relationship. Y o u c a n ch oo se . " -- H a rr y Br o wn e Choice. It's all about freedom--the freedom to pick one thing over another. Are you choosing what you want from life???? "Oh no," comes the reply. "I can't because... I haven't got enough education. ...I need to look after my family. ...I don't have enough money. ...I don't have the time." What's your excuse? The truth is that we have choice in every single moment of our lives. For those who are destitute, the choices in life are fewer. But the rest o...

You have probably noticed those people at work, school, and in your daily life that always appear to be self confident and on top of world. Everything seems to go right for these people and they always seem to present themselves as calm, collected and successful in everything they do. If you are paying attention you have probably noticed that these self confident people usually are successful in every area of their lives. Is this because they are smarter? Or is it because they have more money? Maybe they are just lucky? The reality is that none of these things are necessarily true. Self confident people understand the impact of believing in themselves and relying on their abilities. This confidence ultimately creates opportunities for success and with each new success another self confidence building ...

So how do we go about realizing what's truly important to us? How do we recognize our weaknesses, and learn not to hide behind them? How do we become balanced? How do we open that magical door that will show us the way to personal growth and success? There is no quickie scheme that will make you a successful person. Psychological Type is a powerful aid in our quest for excellence, but it is not the actual solution. It is a model that will help you to expand your understanding of human nature. An improved understanding of yourself and others will help you to find, follow or expand your path. An awareness and acceptance of the fact that one personality function may be more effective than another function in a given situation will help you to understand the relevance of personal growth to your life. Carl Jung identified a process of personal growth that he called individuation , which is essentially the conscious realization of your true self, beyond the Ego that is presented ...

Strive for Balance Most of the weaknesses associated with any given personality type are a result of that type's dominant function overtaking the personality to the extent that the other functions become slaves to the dominant function. Although it is natural for every personality to be ruled by its dominant function, it becomes a problem when the supporting functions are not allowed to develop fully on their own because they are too busy " serving the master ". In such cases, a personality can become quite imbalanced. A situation in which the dominant function of a personality completely overshadows the other personality functions is analogous to a kingdom that is ruled by an overbearing king who requires absolute servitude. Imagine such a king sitting down to dinner in his castle. He keeps all of his servants running about to bring him dinner, and requires that they serve him fully (disregarding their own needs) until he is completed sated. His F...

Recognize Your Weaknesses Without Hiding Behind Them While improving our self-knowledge and realizing our true goals can be very liberating, we should not discard the rules of the society in which we live. We must recognize that other people's value systems are no less important than our own. And we must recognize and accept that we live in a society in which certain personality types and behaviors are more suited towards particular tasks. This is the second key that will open the door towards personal growth. For example, there are situations in which it is more appropriate and effective to show compassion and caring (Feeling), rather than impersonal logic (Thinking). Likewise, there are situations that call for using impersonal logic to make a decision, in which the more subjective viewpoint of the Feeling function is inappropriate and ineffective. Persons with a preference for Feeling will have a natural advantage over Thinkers in situations that require compassion and aw...

Understand What's Important to You Each personality type has a different idea of what it means to be successful. Self-knowledge is one common goal that will help everyone achieve personal success. So many people are hung up on somebody else's idea of what it means to be successful, and they are unaware of what is truly important to them. This is completely normal. We all have important role-models and influencers in our lives who may have basic values that are quite different from our own. If this is the case, it's important to recognize that the discrepancy between what we have been taught is truly important and what we personally believe to be truly important is due to a difference in perspective. If we spend our time and effort trying to meet somebody else's idea of success, and ignore or belittle any conflicting messages from our own psyche, then we will find ourselves exhausted and unhappy. Realizing what is truly important to us is a major step toward...